tack, TA, dave.. whatever, I'm not picky.
You're looking at the wrong sampling. How many people to you know and come into contact with in a single year? Of that your relationships with them are of what magnitude, 1/9999 ?
The problem is not that when we focus our attention on what we can will or control it comes from a narrowing of vision. You're putting on blinders for those 10 relationships to the 100000 other relationships you could be having, because of our ability to only focus on such a small area we can socially control. That's the definition of what "many fish in the sea" is all about. It's not you and your 5 relationships in a little pond, it's 5 little fish swimming in a group in a school of fish in a vast sea of life. We can only see our little pond though. Opening up to the possibilities that those minutes coffee conversations with a stranger could lead to lifetime of contentment and happiness is what you're blinded to. To answer your question... regardless of the other topics you asked "then what?" My answer is to open yourself to possibilities and engage with people in your life, lots of them (and not just the ones you're comfortable with). Get uncomfortably close and personal, test the waters, give, seek, love, learn and grow.
You're looking at the wrong sampling. How many people to you know and come into contact with in a single year? Of that your relationships with them are of what magnitude, 1/9999 ?
The problem is not that when we focus our attention on what we can will or control it comes from a narrowing of vision. You're putting on blinders for those 10 relationships to the 100000 other relationships you could be having, because of our ability to only focus on such a small area we can socially control. That's the definition of what "many fish in the sea" is all about. It's not you and your 5 relationships in a little pond, it's 5 little fish swimming in a group in a school of fish in a vast sea of life. We can only see our little pond though. Opening up to the possibilities that those minutes coffee conversations with a stranger could lead to lifetime of contentment and happiness is what you're blinded to. To answer your question... regardless of the other topics you asked "then what?" My answer is to open yourself to possibilities and engage with people in your life, lots of them (and not just the ones you're comfortable with). Get uncomfortably close and personal, test the waters, give, seek, love, learn and grow.
"There ought to be a term that would designate those who actually follow the teachings of Jesus, since the word 'Christian' has been largely divorced from those teachings, and so polluted by fundamentalists that it has come to connote their polar opposite: intolerance, vindictive hatred, and bigotry." -- Philip Stater, Huffington Post
always working on cleaning my windows- me regarding Johari
always working on cleaning my windows- me regarding Johari
