RE: Relationships: Finding your perfect match and then losing them.
July 16, 2020 at 12:07 pm
(This post was last modified: July 16, 2020 at 12:12 pm by Porcupine.)
(July 16, 2020 at 12:05 pm)Gnomey Wrote: Someone who's "perfect" for you now may not be perfect for future you. In the future, you may meet someone perfect for future you.
This is the most profound thing I've read on this thread. Bar none. Now you've actually got me pondering rather than merely analyzing (my default state). Thank you!
(July 16, 2020 at 12:05 pm)Gnomey Wrote: Just because your next person isn't perfect for you, doesn't mean you won't find meaning in a relationship with them. Or, if you choose to remain single, you'll find happiness and meaning in that.
This is very wise. I also agree with it and my worrying about Future Me goes against my views on personal identity.
I guess it's just the case that irrational sadness about the past and irrational sadness about the future will either pass eventually or it won't. I am a great believer in fate, not in any hocus-pocus 'The One' way, but in a determinist way. And shooting what I already believe in back at me, in your own words, helps me ponder and also helps me disabuse myself of discontentment. Thank you once again.
"Zen … does not confuse spirituality with thinking about God while one is peeling potatoes. Zen spirituality is just to peel the potatoes." - Alan Watts
