(December 31, 2020 at 7:05 pm)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote:(December 31, 2020 at 6:42 pm)Brian37 Wrote: Even outside this virus, I have let people think I am a coward, even at bars long before this.
I won't lie, I could not have been one of the soldiers who landed on the beaches of Normandy. If I had been alive back then, I would have told the draft board, ""I'd be happy to serve pealing potatos state side, but don't put me in combat, I'd get myself killed quickly, or needlessly get others killed" I am definitely not that kind of brave.
But, I have had a couple of occasions at sports bars, where some drunk fuckface overheard me talking about a game, in which they did not like my opinion, and tried to start a fight with me. Both times I put my hands behind my back and said, " You can beat me up if you want, but if you do, you'll be the one going to jail, not me. I am not going to fight you." Both times the guy said, "Wimp". Fine if they want to think that, but I prevented physical harm to myself. How is that not smart?
So, if they assault me, they are the aggressor.
Please explain to me how I was wrong for keeping my distance.
I wasn't trying to start a fight by keeping my distance. He was the asshole who took offense to me keeping my distance. Why is it my responsibility to coddle his insecurities?
*shrug* Just pointing out the risks involved in fucking with strangers. When you fuck with the wrong one and you find him sitting on your chest repeatedly pounding your skull into the asphalt, keep telling yourself, ‘It’s ok - HE’S the aggressor!’
No one’s saying you were wrong by keeping your distance from an unmasked person - that was the smart, sensible thing to do. But your ‘wear a mask, wear a mask’ remark was risky and ill-advised, since you never know how people will react. I’m glad you weren’t hurt.
Boru
It is absolutely true that it is a risk when dealing with strangers. It isn't either or. I will lean to non confrontation when I can. But I do not see how I was being confrontational simply by waiting outside.
His insecurities caused him to initiate confrontation to me because he noticed I wouldn't get close to him. All I said was "I'll wait" to the store clerk, not him.
