(November 3, 2011 at 10:35 pm)kılıç_mehmet Wrote: Well, why not? Some people still do remain married. I know a few woman who suffered abuse under their husbands, who were generally alcoholics and without a job. Yet they did not divorce them for some reason I don't understand. And well, she was also earning well, too, at least to Turkish standards.
Not that she loved him very much either..I don't know if she was ever raped or whatever...But I know that her husband beat her, she told me.
I suggest that you read up on some basic psychology.
Many successful women have been in poor relationships and are also under severe mental abuse, and that's why they can't leave. The first beating comes to many as a surprise and it's really hard for the mind to fathom that the man you loved actually hit you. Later on you become so brainwashed, that many believe that they deserve it, that they are inferior and that they wouldn't manage without their husbands. If there are children involved, she might not leave, because she doesn't want her children to live without a father. In almost all cases there is one thought in the back of such women's heads: "If I love him enough, it'll go away. He can change".
And I'd like to point out that women aren't the only one's to suffer from domestic abuse. Many men are beaten in their relationships and mentally abused too. People have become increasingly aware of the violence towards women, but men can still be laughed at when they say that their wives beat them.
When I was young, there was a god with infinite power protecting me. Is there anyone else who felt that way? And was sure about it? but the first time I fell in love, I was thrown down - or maybe I broke free - and I bade farewell to God and became human. Now I don't have God's protection, and I walk on the ground without wings, but I don't regret this hardship. I want to live as a person. -Arina Tanemura
