RE: Too PC for me.
October 3, 2021 at 10:28 am
(This post was last modified: October 3, 2021 at 10:35 am by zwanzig.)
(October 3, 2021 at 10:09 am)onlinebiker Wrote: My appologies. I did go off on you unnecessarily....
Sorta like punching the wrong guy in the midst of a barroom brawl
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I accept that, thank you. I understand that there's history around here and I only read a quarter of the topics every day. I haven't researched what everyone gets up to or what everyone has said on every topic.
(October 3, 2021 at 10:09 am)Foxaire Wrote: That comment wasn't for you, Ten. I have developed a habit of not quoting people, my bad.
But, I do want to shed some light on your shield comment. Certainly, everyone is different, and I am as different as they come. However, personally I am never offended when people want to say they know me as a gay person when they want to set the record straight against a false allegation of them being homophobic. As someone who has a black boyfriend, I have also had to put black people in their place by mentioning my relationship status.
It's a bad argument. And it has no bearing on the views someone can hold. It's not just that someone knows you that makes them not homophobic. The way they think about gay people is what matters and you being made an exception cannot be used as evidence.
If your friend was going around saying that gay people have more diseases statistically or they shouldn't adopt kids because a lot of pedos are gay, but then when he's called out for that bullshit he's like, "Whoa! I'm not homophobic! My best friend (referring to you) is gay!" That is wrong and you might actually have a problem being used to defend his toxic opinions about gay people.
It's a flawed argument that shouldn't be used because people who are racist or transphobic or homophobic can have those views simultaneously to "knowing" people of different races and identities. And it's not impossible for the two things to coexist. My LDS family members for instance, invite me to birthdays, family gatherings, and we have a good time bonding. Yet they believe my identity is flawed, that trans people are confused and inherently predatory, that God will punish people like me. You can love someone and dehumanize them at the same time.
