Destruction of self confidence

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Grandma's biggest concern was finding hats to wear to church...boy, did she have a collection of fancy hats - think royal family fancy.

Is it because women must cover their heads in the church?

I remember 11 years ago, Roger Ebert wrote about his aunt and mom going to church and covering their heads

"Mary, give me one of your Kleenexes," my mother told my aunt one morning long ago when we were entering Holy Cross Church. She held a bobby pin in her lips, reached up to part her hair, and fixed the Kleenex on top of her head. My Aunt Mary already had her handkerchief in place.

"Why do you have to do that?" I asked.

"Because we are going into the house of the Lord," my mother explained, "and we have to spare him from the sight of us."

"But why?"

"It's because we're women, honey," Aunt Mary said.

And he ended the blogpost with the question:

"Is it good for the world to consider women as an inferior form, as all religions do?"

All of us girls had a little plastic pouch that snapped closed and contained a thing that looked like a small, delicate doily and two bobby pins. Yes, the head had to be covered to enter the church. We all had these nifty little things that just happened to fit perfectly into the pockets of our school uniform skirts...ya know we had to cover our heads before our weekly march to confession and to go sing funeral dirges for the families who wanted the childrens choir.

My paternal grandmother was very tall. Her hats were big and matched her church dresses. When we had an estate sale after the deaths of both grandparents a couple large bags of very extravagent hats were sold for a pretty nice price.