(May 5, 2022 at 2:09 pm)Divinity Wrote:(May 5, 2022 at 10:22 am)arewethereyet Wrote: We have a couple people on here who like to use, as examples, people of great means.
The average woman has to fight to get anything as far as child support goes with the men often waiting till they are going to be picked up on a warrant and then make a small payment toward their back child support. In the meantime, the child still needs food, clothing, housing, and care. If all women had the money to hire big, powerful attorneys and keep going back to court again and again then the concept of child support being something that happens like it should would maybe work.
Of course, this is not always the case. But when it is the case, the child suffers and the court system profits. Maybe that's why they want more babies and fewer terminations.
I had to fight to try to get child support from my louse of an ex husband. Never got a dime. I've seen so many children lose out in these situations, too. Didn't really have time to fight it myself. Had to work to keep putting food on the table, the kids clothed, and make sure they didn't get themselves too hurt. Even if I did keep fighting, who knows how things would've turned out. Might not have even worked out then. I've seen a lot of cases of dead beat dads who just don't pay their child support, or do just enough to keep the courts off their backs. It sounds all well and good on paper, but in reality: It's far more complicated.
Though my older daughter's father joined the Navy and I had his address and SSN, the state couldn't find him. *eyeroll* He never paid a dime and at one point told me he knew I could handle it...why, thanks, ya bum. After a brief stint in the military he never held another job that would result in him receiving a W-2 or a 1099 for the sole purpose of not having to pay support.
My son's father, after not paying anything for seven years, informed me one at one time that he couldn't send his $75.00 in child support because it was Christmas there...well, we were in different time zones but not that damn different.
It's a screwed up system. If anyone thinks that $75.00 a month was saving us, think again. There were times I worked two jobs to make ends come a little closer together, they never met.
I'm your huckleberry.
