Seeking meaningful advice from atheists

[Belacqua]

God’s excessive fault-finding is ruining everything!

I'm not persuaded that the fault-finding comes from God. I suspect it comes from within yourself.

Some of us who don't believe in God are still self-critical to an unreasonable degree. 

It may be that what you tell yourself, you attribute to God, and find passages in scripture to justify. But there are other passages in scripture (e.g., a lot about forgiveness) that would ease the self-criticism, and these could be attributed to God with equal justification.

Good luck to you. This must be a difficult thing to endure.