The hijab (etc) is immodest

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2) I / He is not puting any word in nobody's mouth. The officail view on that is: If she is >18 it's her decision. 

Well we can give the "official view" the middle finger. The number "18" is arbitrary and reaching that age doesn't correspond to any abrupt maturation in the girl's brain, so why are you asking Muslim women to follow the so-called official view ?

3) That can be relative. Very relative. Let me ask you a question: How do you know if you want to mary a girl who is wearing the Hijab?

It is actually permissible to look at your fiancée and, according to some anecdotes in Sahih Abi Dawood, this includes whatever "features" -for the lack of a better word- in her body that'll make you attracted to her.

This means that you don't know much about Islam either, you're just here trying to "school" Muslims that they should follow some official view, the same official view that led to unimaginably high counts of rapes and all kinds of sexual violence, to say nothing of the explosion of the porn industry in the countries that you regard as role models of valuing women.