Islam owns atheism with a single verse

[Loaded dice]

Obviously, if god were just...that men seek to possess and control women - as exemplified by sexual assault and harrassment.......then that would mean he'd have to perpetuate the violence in heaven.  Eternally.

This doesn't follow technically. In heaven, there is a priori an unlimited supply of women, and men wouldn't need to resort to violence to get them. Also it doesn't seem people whom God lets into heaven will have a violent character.

Meanwhile, wives get no grapes and no penis.  Awesome.

No one is single in heaven, that's certainly true in the Islamic account of heaven. All women in heaven definitely have a male partner or husband.