Your Ideal Relationship Arrangement

[Bucky Ball]

And did all that promote your ideal self ?

Too late. I'd already discovered I had nothing to be modest about while I was in high school.

As did I, but (very respectfully) you did not answer my question. 
It's quite possible that we really have "no issues", but having been raised in a very liberal, yet very Catholic "moral"
environment, with my "protector" (great granny) who "got" that having all the *good genes* of her handsome family, (she was afriad I would be taken advantage of), 
I was somewhat vulnerable, I am forever "skewed" by that, (which I am fine with). I had a contract with Eileen Ford when I was 16, 
when I ran away from military high school and hitch-hiked across the country back home. I had applied to an Ivy League college before that, 
(as my very adolescent plan), and when I showed up home, they grounded me "for the rest of your life" LOL, but said, "if you really got into (the Ivy League)
we will agree with your plan". Seems to have worked out for me.