(March 9, 2012 at 3:31 pm)Wildurr Wrote: Is the way we shame women for being promiscuous (slut-shaming) while we praise men for being promiscuous (virgin-shaming) simply an attempt to control women? Or is it something else? FWIW, I have heard far, far more "slut shaming" from women towards other women than I have heard it from men (and I was in a FRATERNITY.)I believe that it has to do with the roles of the two sexes.
Obviously, religion had its fair hand in discouraging extra-marital sex - but why didn't it enforce it against men very effectively?
It's usually up to the female to allow or reject advances.
In that regard, women are promiscuous are generally the ones who allow a lot of men to sleep with them, while men simply follow the law of nature in this regard.
For why it wasn't enforced against men...Well, as I said before, it's mostly at the hands of a woman to reject a man. I've seen very few cases where the female actually chased behind the male in my own society. Here, you're lucky to have a girlfriend who sleeps with you, else, the only girl you're going to get is Elizabeth, or a prostitute from the nearest brothel.
Of course, that being said, what constitutes a "slut" also changes here.
For example, someone who might wear things that are too revealing, or too flamboyant would be considered slutty here. Even if she doesn't sleep around with men, she'd still be considered as such(our famous saying, sexual morality isn't just at the vagina).
If the tables were turned, like, if men were to be the ones to either allow or reject men in that regard, I'd say that the term would mostly be applied to men. I'm not sure if females use such terms for males, but I've heard a lot of girls calling other girls sluts and whores, perhaps more than I've heard men doing the same.
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