Facing the Morally Bad Future

[FallentoReason]

In the bolded: this is the underlying moral dilemma I have though. By telling them the truth about myself, am I then deliberately hurting them because I knew of the discussions that would follow? The ones in question are the ones that might get a little shaky with their faith.

Bullshit mate!! So you will NOT tell them the truth about yourself to "save" their hurt feelings?? LIAR!

Either way you are screwed!! So much for this religious nonsense. Fuck em ! >>> you are the way you are and if they have a problem with that then you can go and find some people who do not have issue with who you ARE!

The biggest problem is the ability we have of selling ourselves short just to stay with "community" When we realise that said "community" is detrimental with our health and well being we should LEAVE... wishing no harm to them but we MUST leave for our own health.

I guess I'm not being selfish by not wanting to be oppressed by this lifestyle anymore... So just come out with it?

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Is it really that important to tell them you no longer believe?

I can't keep pretending to believe whenever we have small talk and God comes up in every 5th sentence.

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See here's my situation very briefly:

Prior to starting to question my faith, I was going about life as a reborn Christian doing his thing for God. What does that entail exactly? Being a member of the worship team at church, being a member of a Christian-only band with aspirations to make it big, missionary work, dreams to start a family that lives for God, bible study group member, 'life group' member... every last detail about me relies on the Bible. So in a way this whole time I was building my future up and when my world turned upside down I now realise I've dug myself the deepest hole possible.

Yes, telling them that I don't want some of these things in my life i.e. I don't believe is absolutely crucial for me to stay sane.