I do believe in marriage. I've been married for 7 years and with my husband for 11. I think where people get tripped up (at least in American culture) is the idea that you will find one soul mate that will complete you. That's a load of hooey.
My husband was previously married, and when we first started dating he was adamant about never getting married again. His first wife cheated on him, and we had conversations early on where we agreed that if either of us wanted to be with someone else that we would have enough respect for the other person to break things off first. That still stands.
We are both happy and satisfied with our sex life. We enjoy each other's company, and we have a lot of common values and interests, though we each have things that we enjoy individually too. And there's the kids, which are grand :-) Seriously, I fell in love with my husband all over again when I saw him become a dad.
I've seen a rash of middle age crisis divorces lately. Couples that have been together for 20+ years, raised a family together, only to become empty nesters and realize they don't have a connection to their spouse anymore. My husband and I have openly discussed this kind of thing and have been making efforts to ensure we get date nights and stay connected as a couple. I think that's the trick: Open communication and making time to stay connected.
My husband was previously married, and when we first started dating he was adamant about never getting married again. His first wife cheated on him, and we had conversations early on where we agreed that if either of us wanted to be with someone else that we would have enough respect for the other person to break things off first. That still stands.
We are both happy and satisfied with our sex life. We enjoy each other's company, and we have a lot of common values and interests, though we each have things that we enjoy individually too. And there's the kids, which are grand :-) Seriously, I fell in love with my husband all over again when I saw him become a dad.
I've seen a rash of middle age crisis divorces lately. Couples that have been together for 20+ years, raised a family together, only to become empty nesters and realize they don't have a connection to their spouse anymore. My husband and I have openly discussed this kind of thing and have been making efforts to ensure we get date nights and stay connected as a couple. I think that's the trick: Open communication and making time to stay connected.
