I've been married 10 years and the first 4 we struggled with a $250 aday herion habbit. A very long story short, we use to long/wish for the 'deal breakers' problems you mentioned in your OP. We learned that Marriage is more than sex, more than the warm and fuzzy feeling you get when you first meet, more than an idea partnership where both people always benfit, where neither party suffers and everything is a 50/50 effort.
Marriage is one of the best oppertunities for one to learn what true love is. 1co13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.
But if you bail just because you wife doesn't jingle your jangle the way she use to, then you will miss out on the best part of marriage. The jingle/jangle part is to help you form a bond not easily broken so you can go through the hard times together. If the superficial bond' is all you seek then you will never know true love.
Once you learn to Love as God has designed you to love then bringing sex back into the relationship is just natural. But, if you bail when the going gets tough then you have to start over, and all you will ever know of love is a faction of what it truly means.
Marriage is one of the best oppertunities for one to learn what true love is. 1co13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.
But if you bail just because you wife doesn't jingle your jangle the way she use to, then you will miss out on the best part of marriage. The jingle/jangle part is to help you form a bond not easily broken so you can go through the hard times together. If the superficial bond' is all you seek then you will never know true love.
Once you learn to Love as God has designed you to love then bringing sex back into the relationship is just natural. But, if you bail when the going gets tough then you have to start over, and all you will ever know of love is a faction of what it truly means.
