Do you believe in marriage?

[Drich]

Before we met, there were two things I absolutly had no patience for. The first was a theif and the second was a liar. I 'learned' to work with both. Don't get me wrong, I still distain these practices, but have learned to seperate the sin from the sinner.

What I'm curious about is this: She obviously got treatment for her addiction. What kind of treatment did you get for your denial and co-dependence?
No judgement intended. I'm the product of an addict and a co-dependant, which means I can exhibit the behaviors of both of an addict (I can lie with the best of them, but I choose to fight that impulse) and co-dependant (I can overlook/ignore some pretty serious shit).

If I was able to "overlook/ignore some pretty serious shit" then we would not be here now. (Happily Married, and clean/sober for the last 6 consectuive years.) I am a man of honor, intergerity, and principles. I live by these virtues, and demand that everyone around me to give a 100% effort live by same virtues. This is what forced accountablity and change in our shared plite. I have cut relationships out of my life because people/family did not respect healthy boundries. My wife would have been one of them if she was not truly repentant of this sin. Again reflecting the Love Christ has for the church, and not going beyond what I was/am called to do. I like God am not required to forgive if the person sinning, if the sinner does not seek forgiveness through repentance. Repentance meaning a true turning from sin. Not just saying your sorry, or even nessarily stop sinning, but a change of heart a complete 180 turn from this sin even if one is still physically addicted/dependant on said sin.

That said we did receive couples and indivisual consoluing while we went through this ordeal. No one is an island unto himself.