No more Mr Nice Stimbo?

[Cyberman]

It is?

Ah but then I'm not the one confusing empathy, sentiment, or just plain being in touch with one's emotions with effeminacy.

Neither am I. I'm saying that acting like a giddy schoolgirl is effeminate, and it is.

I'd like to see how you act when drunk. It should be most entertaining.

If I was feeling mean I might say one of us is probably a terminal virgin. Thank you for not making me feel mean.

Typical effeminate passive/aggressive behavior. Be a man. Forget the passive shit, just be aggressive for crying out loud.

Very well. Fuck off, troll.

For the rest, I do take your point in the manner it was most likely intended. All opinions are welcome and can even be revealing.

Seriously, try some of the stuff on that list. All these people telling you to be yourself (there were a couple notable exceptions) are full of shit. There's not a person on this planet who couldn't improve in some ways. Quit crying like a baby and do something about it. Heck, I'm not even suggesting that you lose the effeminate stuff. That's apparently who you are. I'm just suggesting you add some masculinity in your life, and be selective about when you reveal different aspects of yourself to chicks.

Interesting that you advise being selective about revealing different aspects. People can and do only respond to what I decide to share here, which represents the merest hint of my world and my relationship to it. I suspect that a comparison between that and what you decide to share might go some way to explaining the relative disparity between our respective reputation levels. For the record, if not exactly for your edification, I am indeed "doing something about it". Whether it will bear fruit remains to be seen. Almost all of the responses to this thread have so far been quite helpful to me in that regard.

I can hardly be blamed, I would have thought, for the bottomless depressive pit into which I was cast. I certainly didn't choose any of this; indeed, if I had such power as to make my choices affect reality, do you not think this wouldn't even be the last thing I would pick?

I agree that everybody has at least the desire to improve themselves, even though they may not have the means, or perhaps they do and are not aware of it. Here's a deal for you: you show me how it's done - improve yourself into a worthwhile member of our happy little band. Then I'll stop crying like a baby. Though in order to do that I'll have to start first.