(February 2, 2013 at 11:51 am)festive1 Wrote: Think of it this way: Would you want to be with someone who wants to be with you when you're acting like something you're not? or would you prefer to be with someone who wants to be with you just as you are, the good and the bad? Everyone has dark parts, I'll accept yours if you accept mine. Sure it opens you to being hurt, but nothing risked, nothing gained.
I'm just a great big puppy. I'll happily trot along beside anyone who throws me a doggy choc and will carry on sniffing around just for that remote chance I'll get another, even if I'm kicked away and forgotten the rest of the time. However, not everyone is like me, in fact the women I've known including the person of recent discussion have been beautifully independent. It seems the myth of the Bad Boy has been comprehensively exploded, or at the very least isn't universally applicable.
I have indeed had such a relationship as you describe, someone who wants me just for me. I'll never have that again, but more to the point I never want that again. As I said earlier, I'll be constantly if unwittingly comparing what I'd have with what we already had - Sam used to say this, or Sam used to do it this way - and that's not fair to the other person or myself.
At the age of five, Skagra decided emphatically that God did not exist. This revelation tends to make most people in the universe who have it react in one of two ways - with relief or with despair. Only Skagra responded to it by thinking, 'Wait a second. That means there's a situation vacant.'
