Man quits job over bad woo

[John V]

Here you are talking only about the biological gender, and sure, XX gives you the biological gender of a woman, XY that of a man. What you are missing is the perceived gender and personal gender and oddly enough, those are in this case more important. Tara and Lilly are both women, because they say so. I don't know where you got the idea that a man would say that he's a woman, if he is a man. As for perception, I don't know anyone who could look at these fantastic and beautiful gals thinking that they are men.
You don't have to understand, but you have to respect the fact that there are people who's brain is not the same as their biological gender.

No, I don't need to comply with someone's incorrect usage of words.

At least Violet tries to establish a reasonable basis for that usage, rather than just issuing a proclamation.

Also note that I sometimes do use female references to them just out of politeness. Sometimes I don't. Depends on the context.