Legislation for gay marriage is approved in the UK House of Commons!

[A Theist]

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I'm basing 'natural' and 'normal' in this instance on the physical anatomy. God / nature / evolution, your preference, did not equip our bodies for same gender sex.

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I'll never forget the time I first realized I'd fallen in love with a man. In addition to being really cute, he and I hit it off well and bonded almost from the point we met. At first I was in denial about it, insisting we were just really close friends. A shrewdly observant other friend of mine noticed the signs before I acknowledged them. He was confused by it because he knew all my previous love interests and other pursuits to be female but I was exhibiting the same behavior toward this other man.

One of the signs that made me acknowledge what I was feeling was when we were at a restaurant together and this cute girl came up to him and struck up a conversation, flirting with him (I later learned he was oblivious). I felt a sudden surge of jealousy ("bitch"). I turned and walked away wondering "what the hell was that?" I wasn't jealous of him. I was jealous over him.

It took me months to come to terms with it and act on my feelings. I'd always thought I'd had a liberal view of homosexuality but a lot of programming from the 80s was hard to shake completely. Looking back, I can tell you that it's not my bisexuality that's unnatural. Indeed, the experience is completely the same on an emotional level. The only difference is the physical mechanics of the consummation (and even this is more a variation on a theme). It's the programming against it that is artificial.

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Like many bisexuals, I didn't discover my versatility until later in life. Because, unlike with those who are gay, we are genuinely attracted to the opposite gender, we can easily direct all our sexual energy in that direction.

Same gender affections is quite natural. It's homophobia that's an artificial construct.

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I'm tempted to go into a dissertation on anal sex, oral sex and a thing called "frotting" but we're not in Area 69.

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Like many bisexuals, I didn't discover my versatility until later in life. Because, unlike with those who are gay, we are genuinely attracted to the opposite gender, we can easily direct all our sexual energy in that direction.

If I'm understanding you correctly, you can easily enough resist your attraction to other men. But if you chose to be with another man, then wouldn't you say that would be a lifestyle choice for you instead? I also think that people who have strong attractions and addictions to things like gambling, alcohol and drug use, etc. can also resist those urges...Just like other addictive behaviors I don't believe that bi / gay / lesbian lifestyles are natural...like you pointed out, in your case, I think those urges can be resisted...and I still believe that they are a mental disorder that can be treated...

Same gender affections is quite natural. It's homophobia that's an artificial construct.

actually.....

Homophobia has never been listed as part of a clinical taxonomy of phobias, neither in Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) or International Statistical Classification of Diseases and Related Health Problems (ICD); homophobia is usually used in a non-clinical sense.