I've been stuck in bed all day because I have a head cold or something, and I got to thinking about something. Now, bear with me please. This is for non-believers in long-term relationships with other non-believers.
About eight months ago, I got dumped out of the blue after just over a year. I was deeply in love, but he decided there wasn't room in his life for me, even though he insisted he loved me. It was a shock in so many ways, but reflecting on it today yielded this thought: it doesn't matter how much you care about someone, there is every possibility that they will leave. No matter how safe you feel, how great you think the situation is, no matter what words have been exchanged. A loved one might make a decision to not have you in his or her life anymore.
I've come a long way in the last eight months, but this thought keeps popping up. I've been dating a little, but it scares me. I mean, I understand relationships sometimes run their courses, but that is a different topic. I got so attached to my ex, and then, all of a sudden, he was just... not available to me anymore.
OK, now, the point of this thread isn't to boohoo my saddies, but rather, to gain a new perspective from logical thinkers who don't have a magic specter telling them they have to stay in relationships or they're going to a fiery afterlife. Knowing what I know now, that people will just leave for what seem like arbitrary reasons with no warning, how am I supposed to tell whom to trust?
About eight months ago, I got dumped out of the blue after just over a year. I was deeply in love, but he decided there wasn't room in his life for me, even though he insisted he loved me. It was a shock in so many ways, but reflecting on it today yielded this thought: it doesn't matter how much you care about someone, there is every possibility that they will leave. No matter how safe you feel, how great you think the situation is, no matter what words have been exchanged. A loved one might make a decision to not have you in his or her life anymore.
I've come a long way in the last eight months, but this thought keeps popping up. I've been dating a little, but it scares me. I mean, I understand relationships sometimes run their courses, but that is a different topic. I got so attached to my ex, and then, all of a sudden, he was just... not available to me anymore.
OK, now, the point of this thread isn't to boohoo my saddies, but rather, to gain a new perspective from logical thinkers who don't have a magic specter telling them they have to stay in relationships or they're going to a fiery afterlife. Knowing what I know now, that people will just leave for what seem like arbitrary reasons with no warning, how am I supposed to tell whom to trust?
