Death and atheism - something I've struggled with

[Stooshie]

I find speaking to others about the person's life really helps. Remembering the good parts (and the not so good parts) of their life also helps.

I say remembering the not so good parts because, for me at least, Lionising someone makes for unrealistic memories of them.

I don't know if you do facebook but there is group there called Grief beyond belief which gives support to people who have lost someone in a space where false promises won't be made.

http://www.facebook.com/faithfreegriefsupport