Defense of marriage act is unconstitutional

[Polaris]

Judges are allowed to toss out frivolous lawsuits though....I would see many judges doing so for people attempting to do as your friend suggested. Remember the law rarely sides on the side of compassion.

Well they can't just toss them out as frivolous if people are legally married in one state, move to another state, establish legal residency and then show a genuine loss or inequity. Only those schlocky, ultra conservative supreme court justices can get away with that, as they show time and time again.

Well that would be a different issue that someone from a state that does not recognize it getting married in a state that recognizes it while still a resident of that state....aka someone from Alabama getting married in California later this year and informing their state they now deserve marriage rights in Alabama....even though this sounds barbaric, the pre-Civil War runaway slaves laws show the precedent with siding with the states that oppose same-sex marriages.

The issue you brought up may easily make it back to the Supreme Court down the road....them deciding not to rule on Prop 8 is merely delaying the inevitable.

Also, most of America (as in number of states, not population) have those conservatives in control one way or the other.

I foresee this being a long battle...maybe not as bad as the 1807-1865 gap, but still long.