Is calling someone judgemental judgemental?

[Koolay]

you're nitpicking. that's not being judgmental, that's self-preservation, which errs on the side of caution at all times. when i'm walking home alone on an empty street at night, one man walking behind me is all it takes for me to reach for my phone. i believe the word used for that kind of behaviour is paranoia, not judgmental.

the kind of things i was talking about in my previous post applies to when you're getting to know someone.

Mmmmm, now you are calling a healthy sense of self preservation paranoia which is neurotic insanity. I don't mean to give the impression of nit picking, this is what you are saying.

Yeah, It is definitely preferable to ask questions.

I am very curious about why people think the way they think, how their childhood was, what makes them tick etc.

But on the other hand, it is kind of that person's responsibility to make clear that they are good, and to not let people's assumptions paint a negative picture.

If I go into a job interview with a bank wearing a track suit- I can't really claim that it was totally unexpected when I don't get the job.