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I'm sure this subject has been covered, but a did some searching around and couldn't find what I was looking for (could be my searching skills).
My wife and I were high school sweethearts and we have been married since 92. She has grown up attending the same church her entire life (Church of Christ) and has never visited any other religious venue. I did not grow up in the church and originally started going with her just to spend time with her. Over the years I came to walk the walk that she and her family walked. I was pretty good at it too.
Anyway, about 3 years ago I started having some questions. The more questions I had and studied on, the further and further I found myself from religion as a whole. I think it's pretty obvoius what my beliefs are now (seeing as how I'm posting this on an Atheist forum). My wife is fully aware of my beliefs and has dealt with it very well (considering). I still attend service with her and put on my happy church face, but I have stepped down from all activities that involve "churchy stuff". I feel it's a small price to pay if it helps her feel better.
My question involves the raising of my two boys and is directed to those that may have been through similar situations. My oldest is 20, and has recently been made aware of my beliefs (he too asks questions, and when they don't make sense, he sees it for what it is). I'm not too worried about him, he has a good head on his shoulders and seems pretty grounded. My concern is more toward my younger son. He's 13 and has been raised in the church his entire life. He's begun to ask questions as well, and I'm just not really sure how to handle those. I've been pretty successful at redirecting him to his mother, but I'm sure that I can't keep that up forever (or if that's really fair to him)? I'm a bit concerned about the effect that it will have on him in the long run. My wife has made it clear that she would prefer me to "NOT" talk to him about "god stuff", so I don't. It's a system that has been working, but I fear as he gets a bit older that it will become more and more difficult.
Anyway, I'm not sure what I'm looking for here. Perhaps just an opportunity to vent? Perhaps a support system that isn't so biased?
Sorry my first post was so long winded. Thanks for taking the time to read it.
I'm sure this subject has been covered, but a did some searching around and couldn't find what I was looking for (could be my searching skills).
My wife and I were high school sweethearts and we have been married since 92. She has grown up attending the same church her entire life (Church of Christ) and has never visited any other religious venue. I did not grow up in the church and originally started going with her just to spend time with her. Over the years I came to walk the walk that she and her family walked. I was pretty good at it too.
Anyway, about 3 years ago I started having some questions. The more questions I had and studied on, the further and further I found myself from religion as a whole. I think it's pretty obvoius what my beliefs are now (seeing as how I'm posting this on an Atheist forum). My wife is fully aware of my beliefs and has dealt with it very well (considering). I still attend service with her and put on my happy church face, but I have stepped down from all activities that involve "churchy stuff". I feel it's a small price to pay if it helps her feel better.My question involves the raising of my two boys and is directed to those that may have been through similar situations. My oldest is 20, and has recently been made aware of my beliefs (he too asks questions, and when they don't make sense, he sees it for what it is). I'm not too worried about him, he has a good head on his shoulders and seems pretty grounded. My concern is more toward my younger son. He's 13 and has been raised in the church his entire life. He's begun to ask questions as well, and I'm just not really sure how to handle those. I've been pretty successful at redirecting him to his mother, but I'm sure that I can't keep that up forever (or if that's really fair to him)? I'm a bit concerned about the effect that it will have on him in the long run. My wife has made it clear that she would prefer me to "NOT" talk to him about "god stuff", so I don't. It's a system that has been working, but I fear as he gets a bit older that it will become more and more difficult.
Anyway, I'm not sure what I'm looking for here. Perhaps just an opportunity to vent? Perhaps a support system that isn't so biased?
Sorry my first post was so long winded.
Thanks for taking the time to read it.
