I am also married to an high school sweetheart that is a Christian(Catholic), and we have a 2 1/2 year old son. The difference is that I was never a Christian, and this was all on the table before the relationship even began.
The way I look at it is that I have only so much capital to spend when arguing about a religious difference, so I try to pick my battles carefully. I allowed my wife to have him baptized, because it's just a silly ritual and going against that might make it more difficult down the road if say she wanted to start taking him to bible school. If you allow your wife to have her way with things that will have less of a negative impact on your son, it will be easier to control the things you are really concerned about, like if she wanted to start teaching him creationism.
As far as my beliefs and what to teach my son, if my son asks my belief, I won't hesitate to tell him I don't believe, despite the fact that might make my wife uncomfortable. I'm not going to pretend I'm something I'm not. I won't, however, tell him that he can't believe. I will concentrate on teaching him how to think, not what to think, and let him find his own way. He may end up religious, which I don't have a problem with, but that will do very well to ensure the doesn't end up another Rick Santorum, which is what I truly wish to prevent.
The way I look at it is that I have only so much capital to spend when arguing about a religious difference, so I try to pick my battles carefully. I allowed my wife to have him baptized, because it's just a silly ritual and going against that might make it more difficult down the road if say she wanted to start taking him to bible school. If you allow your wife to have her way with things that will have less of a negative impact on your son, it will be easier to control the things you are really concerned about, like if she wanted to start teaching him creationism.
As far as my beliefs and what to teach my son, if my son asks my belief, I won't hesitate to tell him I don't believe, despite the fact that might make my wife uncomfortable. I'm not going to pretend I'm something I'm not. I won't, however, tell him that he can't believe. I will concentrate on teaching him how to think, not what to think, and let him find his own way. He may end up religious, which I don't have a problem with, but that will do very well to ensure the doesn't end up another Rick Santorum, which is what I truly wish to prevent.
Even if the open windows of science at first make us shiver after the cozy indoor warmth of traditional humanizing myths, in the end the fresh air brings vigor, and the great spaces have a splendor of their own - Bertrand Russell
