Men Women Sex and Temptation

[Rahul]

What makes people bored with someone they use to dream about?

Because before you have something you are making up rosy fiction about it all. Reality never works out like that.

What happens to people when they become parents that makes them miserable bastards?

Miserable? I don't think being a parent has ever made me miserable. It is more stressful. Living only for yourself with no responsibilities toward someone unable to care for themselves is way easier, I'll admit.

Why do some couples change so effortlessly together while others slowly fade apart?

I don't think anyone does it effortlessly. Most people would think that about my wife and I. But, hell, that definitely isn't the truth. Far from it.

Is it nature?

I don't know.

Were people meant to be monogamous couples their whole lives? Is that nature?

I don't know that either. I've read studies that support both monogamy for life and serial monogamy. Probably more serial monogamy in a natural state for our species.

Is it all our fault? Is it only partially our fault? None?

*Shrugs*

Why does a piece of paper make leaving a partner so much worse than two people who have never put their names on a marriage license?

Married couples compared to non married cohabitating couples show a lot of differences. Even with children. Non married parents split up much more frequently. They have less combining of their individual assets. Kids have more issues in life. Etc.

Being legally married does have a psychological impact on couples and changes their behavior in a relationship. The benefits to any children in the relationship is stark.

Unmarried people have children all the time. If they separate, people don't seem to blink an eye. Are we just as brainwashed as the christians or is there some biological cause in there somewhere?

The odd thing is that it used to only be poorly educated people (less than high school education) that were averse to marriage. Moderately educated (High school, maybe some college) and highly educated (college graduate) were still getting married in high numbers.

Now the poorly educated and moderately educated are both eschewing marriage. Whereas the highly educated are still marrying in around the same numbers as always while the numbers who divorce is dropping. Divorce for those that marry now are much lower for my generation than the baby boomers.

Due to the benefits of parental marriage to the children (less risky sexual activity, higher educational attainment, fewer experiencing poverty, lower rates of alcohol and drug abuse, etc) some sociologists are fretting that we are seeing the beginning of a class divide in our society.

I don't really know. I've read things, but they're just studies.

For me, I take marriage seriously, and I take being a husband and a father in a family seriously. To each their own though. There's not a one size fits all.