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[Zazzy]

Arguing for the purposes of learning and communicating > Arguing for the sake of arguing

Don't you agree?

It's funny to argue over this (), but I don't agree. My experience of most theists who come to atheist sites is that they just want to argue- mostly to see their own arguments in black-and-white, which is reassuring. If you are genuinely trying to learn, you are trying to come to a place where arguments become agreements to disagree.

I have been on Christian forums occasionally to ask questions about things I don't understand. I ask my questions as politely as I can and often ask many follow-up questions. It is not my intention there to argue at all- only to learn the answer to my question. If I am tempted to argue, I usually hold it in check, because I came to a Christian house and I'm not going to put my muddy shoes on their rugs. Usually, this experience ends up being really positive and I learn things I didn't know, and I try to leave them with an experience of an atheist who wasn't a rude asshat trying to cause trouble in their community.