All This Talk of 'Morals'

[John V]

My sincere apologies if my OP left the impression that I was implying that being a christian (made me into a jerk), it did not. What being a christian DID do, however, was to bolster jerk-like qualities I already possessed, and ever since I ditched the dogma I've found a REAL path to being (good and decent), whatever those things are. The implication is that christianity strengthens one's ability to be a jerk,

Christianity strengthened your ability to be a jerk. If I'm fighting with my wife, when I read the Bible I end up reconciling quickly. Christianity weakens my ability to be a jerk. And if some of you think I'm a jerk on here, you should see some of the stuff I delete without posting because Christianity gets the better of me.

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I'm sick of this argument, like who the fuck defines what a successful christian is? Let me guess - it's someone who adheres to the exact same rules of your particular denomination of christianity, and all other christians aren't true christians.

Incorrect. However, I'm not aware of any denomination that argues against this:
Galations 5
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.

So it's reasonable to say that a professing Christian who doesn't possess these (as OP apparently didn't) isn't a successful Christian.