(November 26, 2013 at 3:36 pm)Faith No More Wrote:(November 26, 2013 at 3:29 pm)Natedeezy Wrote: And your example of love isn't real love. Real love is unconditional, love as most people describe and understand it today is very much attached to an understanding of the mind. Such as I love them, but only if they function within the conditions I've named. If you are in a "loving" relationship and they cheat on you, that love can easily turn to hate, and so you can see it's not real love, as real love is unconditional. Is it possible to love someone unconditionally? I'd argue yes, and it is only the mind that tells you differently. It's ultimately a choice, which is the beauty of life, we choose how we live it.
What is your evidence that this "real love," as you put it, exists?
It's a feeling. You cannot prove a feeling, you can only point to it. It is the understanding that nothing external can bring you true joy, because it is conditional. If that external object doesn't fit your minds idea of what it should be, you suffer. If you are attached to the car, its lose brings you suffering. But if you do not identify with the mental labeling that something tragic just happened, then you can be in the state of unconditional love. Unconditional love is outside of the duality of the mind. The mind labels things good and bad, but with duality, you have the possibility of suffering, and with the promise of change in the world, your inner state, if you view things as good and bad, you will always be at the mercy of how your mind identifies a situation. The point is, you don't have to be, if you can detach from the duality of the mind.
