As good a description as any
In essence being a dom / sub is something you are, whereas topping or bottoming is something you do. And in the best kink communities there is parity of esteem. Bdsm is about being honest about what you like, harder =/= better. If you can get the same kick from having your wrists held or your bottom spanked as someone else only gets with a full rope suspension kit and an anal hook smeared with wasabe, then good luck to you!
Quote: Dominant: The person who has the power and control. The one in charge at all times. Also known as Master or Mistress, Domme (fem), Dom (male), The one with the duty of care to the person who is under their control. The boss, the God/Goddess, idol, revered one. The journey maker and limit pusher. The responsible and caring one (yes caring)!
submissive: The person handing over the power and control to the Dominant. The one obeying the orders, experiencing the journey at the hands of another, the one who serves and wishes to please the Dominant in whatever way the Dominant deems fit. AKA ‘sub’ or slave, maid, sissy or butler.
Top: In My experience more of a fetishist. Likes to be the one doing the ‘giving’ of BDSM activity but not necessarily in a controlling or powerful manner. Also likely to care about the limits and safety of the ‘bottom’ too of course!.
bottom: The one receiving the BDSM and fetish activities. Likes to hand over control but in My experience not in a servile manner. Likes the experience but not the servitude. Some bottoms like to have the control over what is done to them. This is often referred to as ‘topping from the bottom’.
Switch: Someone who like to experiment both sides of the coin according to their mood. Sometimes top sometimes bottom. Sometimes Dom(me) sometimes sub.
In essence being a dom / sub is something you are, whereas topping or bottoming is something you do. And in the best kink communities there is parity of esteem. Bdsm is about being honest about what you like, harder =/= better. If you can get the same kick from having your wrists held or your bottom spanked as someone else only gets with a full rope suspension kit and an anal hook smeared with wasabe, then good luck to you!
"Peace is a lie, there is only passion.
Through passion, I gain strength.
Through strength, I gain power.
Through power, I gain victory.
Through victory, my chains are broken."
Sith code
Through passion, I gain strength.
Through strength, I gain power.
Through power, I gain victory.
Through victory, my chains are broken."
Sith code
