Forced to see a Minister.... UGHHH

[Angrboda]

Do not attempt to argue with him or her. That is a trap. He or she will simply keep trying different things until they hit upon something you are unfamiliar with, or something you are unsure of. Consider these stock phrases, "I don't believe, I just don't," and, "That's a good point, and I'd have to think about it some more, but I don't find it persuasive," followed by, "I still don't believe." If you get flustered, ask him or her to write down what they just said so you can look into it later, ask them to repeat what they said, or ask them to phrase it a different way because you don't understand their point as stated; this will give you time to think, and allow you to defuse any emotional charge. They will try to convince you they are your friend. Real friends respect your heartfelt beliefs and don't try to change you. He or she is not your friend. Be plain about how you feel. If they suggest you trust them, tell them you see no reason to trust someone who is basically a complete stranger. If they accuse you of something, that you are hostile or whatever, simply deny it and move on. Don't try to explain or defend yourself. "All you can say when people say things about you that aren't true is say it ain't so." (Ursula K Le Guin) Stonewall. Do not try to bring the argument to them; let them come to you. If you're unsure, keep things simple and concrete; talk about feelings and identifiable things; do not be dragged into talking about intangibles like fate, free will, choice, sin, and the like. That is a trap. Keep it focused on things you can see, touch, and easily believe. Let them make the case, don't give them "your side," as they'll just use it to undermine your resolve.

Keep it simple.

Best of luck, and may you prosper in all things.