(May 13, 2014 at 1:05 pm)Clueless Morgan Wrote:(May 13, 2014 at 12:17 pm)RaisdCath Wrote: In my very humble and naïve opinion, you sure as heck don't need therapy!!
That's one bonus of being reasonably self-aware and have a decent idea of where my problems stem from.
Quote:You seem to be most worried about a) what others will think
Yes. The teasing I endured in my childhood happened 1) in the formative years when I was learning right from wrong behavior and that I really didn't enjoy being teased or embarrassed, and 2) lasted long into my teens making for damn sure I knew the potential consequences if I ever had a boyfriend. As a result, I either never said yes when I was asked out, or kept my activities secret for fear of what would come of it if anyone in my family found out.
Like I said, it's not something I should worry about anymore, but I do. Kind of like people who have given up religion but still have that nagging anxiety about hell. It's not rational but it's still there.
Quote:and b) romance.
Puke.
The "puke" comment regarding "romance" is easily understood, so for now (however long "now" might last).....leave it out.
Now....concentrate on activities where you're not known .... or known only a little....and enjoy them. Nature walks, book clubs, a small gym, bird watching (I know it sounds silly, but it is very relaxing), and such stuff.
Gets you around people without any stress of "expectations"!!
People don't go to heaven when they die; they're taken to a special room and burned.
