RE: Fairly new and hoping for advice and help
May 17, 2014 at 11:40 am
(This post was last modified: May 17, 2014 at 11:41 am by SteelCurtain.)
(May 17, 2014 at 11:28 am)potch Wrote: Unfortunately, SC, it's not even just celibacy. My Rabbi is putting pressure on me to marry a woman (Someone he would set me up with), with the promise that with enough behavioral modification I will "become a man" and be cured of my homosexuality.
Aw, man. That makes me so sad. And what a complete lack of empathy shown by that man!?! That makes me angry. Not only are you being pressured to "be a man" by this jackass, but what a complete lack of respect for the woman who is to be your brood mare. No worries about her, she's just there to be used in this little experiment. Disgusting. Can't you see how backwards this whole thing is? The answer to being different is to completely disregard you and an innocent woman to satisfy some sinister idea of what some sheep herders knew about sex? To completely ruin two lives in the name of satisfying an imaginary god?
Get some more opinions. Go to a LGBT get together or charity event. Talk to people, tell them your story. There are plenty of religious people who are also gay. Find out how they reconcile the two. But keep reading and questioning. You'll find out that it just doesn't add up. You are entitled to be happy. The love you feel towards you friend is a real thing. The arousal you feel can be measured, and is demonstrably different than that of a heterosexual male. Your brain reacts differently. This isn't just some choice you made, living in sin. Your brain is wired differently. Never, EVER let anyone tell you you are broken, needing to be fixed.
"There remain four irreducible objections to religious faith: that it wholly misrepresents the origins of man and the cosmos, that because of this original error it manages to combine the maximum servility with the maximum of solipsism, that it is both the result and the cause of dangerous sexual repression, and that it is ultimately grounded on wish-thinking." ~Christopher Hitchens, god is not Great
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