Discussion w/ a Theist RE: Premarital Sex

[bennyboy]

I haven't read this whole thread, but I want to address the OP title.


My wife was a virgin when we got married. For ME, that's been very important-- when we've had arguments, even big ones, the fact that she was mine and only mine really made sure I got over the stress and worked things out. If I had been #53, then I'm not sure I wouldn't have walked a couple times. For HER, I can imagine it's made a difference, too. There were a couple times when we were younger that I was so out of control, so aggressive, that she probably SHOULD have left me. But since I was her first and in her mind only, she stuck with me and over the years the rough edges have worn off.

Now, after all the BS, we can say we've stuck it out, and we have a beautiful and harmonious family. I really think the fact that she had no premarital experience played a role in keeping us together.

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I'd say less than 1% actually practice no sex before marriage.

Only in Western culture. In Eastern cultures, there are millions and millions who haven't had any sexual experience beyond kissing before they get married. In Korea, for example, extended virginity is definitely the norm (although this is changing these days).