Discussion w/ a Theist RE: Premarital Sex

[bennyboy]

Look at rates of teenage sex and pregnancy in the US, and then look at the same stats in Korea. You say people are uptight about sex, but that's not true-- young people are fine with sex. The uptight ones are the adults who ignore it or think their cheap emotional programming will overcome natural impulses.

The question, to me, is this-- does premarital sex, on average, improve the quality of a young person's life? I'd argue that falling in love and social interaction have a great positive impact. Sex-- well, personally, I think it has a psychological cost for very many.

Sorry to jump in the middle of a discussion...I think the impact of sex entirely depends on the emotional make up of individuals....it is emotional dynamite for some and for others just no big deal.

This is true. But the question is-- can people know before they get into it how it will affect them? I think a lot of people are diminished by early sexual experiences-- because they are forced, or made under false pretenses, or made under the influence of alcohol. They are made by foolish girls thinking at the age of 18 that "this is the one," only to realize soon after that they've lost something, and to be ashamed that they gave it up so easily to a guy of little quality. I'm not a woman, but I don't see that early sexual experiences are a big plus for young women.

I don't think waiting to have sex diminishes a person in any way, except in that they have some insecurities about their sexual prowess or worthiness. But that's what honeymoons are for.