Discussion w/ a Theist RE: Premarital Sex

[StealthySkeptic]

This is true. But the question is-- can people know before they get into it how it will affect them? I think a lot of people are diminished by early sexual experiences-- because they are forced, or made under false pretenses, or made under the influence of alcohol. They are made by foolish girls thinking at the age of 18 that "this is the one," only to realize soon after that they've lost something, and to be ashamed that they gave it up so easily to a guy of little quality. I'm not a woman, but I don't see that early sexual experiences are a big plus for young women.

I don't think waiting to have sex diminishes a person in any way, except in that they have some insecurities about their sexual prowess or worthiness. But that's what honeymoons are for.

The sexual urge and the urge to experiment is most strongest in young people. That's just biology at work, raging hormones.
From my own experience way back when, most teenagers go at their own pace in this area when they feel themselves ready.
Of course we would want to protect our youngsters from emotional harm from getting pressured to do stuff, or being preyed on by older people . That's what the laws are for.
Education has the biggest part to play, including educating about morality and consequences. Give the kids all the facts.
But I don't see a need to wrap it up in religion. Religion is all about punishment and instilling guilt.

I wish I could give this post a million kudos. It's SO true. Let's not pretend that young people are somehow stupid or that they'll always get hurt by premarital sex. They DO however need to be educated on contraception, as there is a stifling silence around sexuality caused by religion otherwise.