refuting misconceptions:1-women in Islam

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hitting her slightly with something like a toothbrush as a warning before divorce after a year of trying to change something which is ruining the family

That's abuse, both psychological and physical. The emotional pain involved with being hit with a feather or with a brick is the same.

I don't think so... being hit with a feather is more likely to instill laughter and confusion than it is emotional hurt. Also... as with physical pain, the larger/heavier/more obviously dangerous object will instill more emotional pain (If say, the individual recognizes that the other person is willing to hit them with an obviously dangerous object). And let's not forget the terror of being hit with a brick (as apposed to a feather) that the victim anticipates.

Enter from here, a state of hopelessness and fear.