refuting misconceptions:1-women in Islam

[Tiberius]

hitting her slightly with something like a toothbrush as a warning before divorce after a year of trying to change something which is ruining the family and its not preferable to do so and muhammed (pbuh) himself never did that(u r making a big deal of this)

I'm making a big deal out of it because it's such a ridiculous notion. It is *still* a man hitting a woman; how and why does he have that right?

Also, if you have to wait a year and she is still ruining the family, what good is a toothbrush beating going to do? Why not just get a divorce with the beating?