Your thoughts on finding "the one"?

[Clueless Morgan]

[My bolding]

If you meet a girl in one of your engineering classes you will have created the circumstances for you meet by going to college and deciding to major in engineering.

If you meet a girl at one of your band gigs, you will have created the circumstances for you meet by accepting that gig and showing up for it.

If you think about it, even if you joined some kind of meetup group for people with similar interests and met someone there, you'd have created the circumstances for you meet by joining that meetup group.

Mmmm, the distinction is more subtle that than. For example, meeting a girl at a cafe means that I deliberately have to approach her and initiate that connection, thereby "creating the circumstances". The examples you have given, I would think, are going to take a more natural course, with genuine opportunities arising in those environments.

So, if you met a girl in class you wouldn't deliberately have to approach her or introduce yourself in order to initiate that connection? I think you do. Even if she's sitting right next to you, you still have to say something to her to establish a connection, even if it's "Did you catch which pages we're supposed to read for homework?" or "My copy of the syllabus is smudged, does that say the paper is due this Friday or next Friday?"

My point is that whether you happen to see a girl in a cafe and introduce yourself, or see a girl in class and introduce yourself, or see a girl at a gig and introduce yourself, you're still creating the circumstances for you to meet.

Speaking as someone who is WAY closer to 30 than you, take a chill pill, you've got lots of time to meet someone.