My thoughts about, "The One" can be best summed up by a Tim Minchin song:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IeZMIgheZro
That being said, the quest for a statistically significant other can be a daunting one. I turned to Swing dancing to increase my beat rate of meeting women and also increasing my ability to talk to them without freezing up. I was extremely nervous around women and the increased exposure to women totally fixed that. I agree with your friend that you should let the girl know your intentions but only as far as saying, "I want to date you." Working the word "date" into the conversation is important because women are more than willing to make male friends and sometimes it seems that no amount of signalling will alert them to the fact that you are interested in them.
I had many unsuccessful encounters with women who were all too willing to give me there number, but totally unwilling to fuck me. So... I made sure, right after getting their number, to ask the question, "Do you mind if I ask you out on a date sometime?" Yes, it can be a bit forced but it does prevent the obnoxious time spent with a women who clearly just thinks of you as a friend. Not that I mind that, I had many female friends while I was swing dancing and it was great to be able to call any of them up to meet me at some dance venue as friends. We were there for moral support and when we met people we wanted to date we would talk about them to each other.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IeZMIgheZro
That being said, the quest for a statistically significant other can be a daunting one. I turned to Swing dancing to increase my beat rate of meeting women and also increasing my ability to talk to them without freezing up. I was extremely nervous around women and the increased exposure to women totally fixed that. I agree with your friend that you should let the girl know your intentions but only as far as saying, "I want to date you." Working the word "date" into the conversation is important because women are more than willing to make male friends and sometimes it seems that no amount of signalling will alert them to the fact that you are interested in them.
I had many unsuccessful encounters with women who were all too willing to give me there number, but totally unwilling to fuck me. So... I made sure, right after getting their number, to ask the question, "Do you mind if I ask you out on a date sometime?" Yes, it can be a bit forced but it does prevent the obnoxious time spent with a women who clearly just thinks of you as a friend. Not that I mind that, I had many female friends while I was swing dancing and it was great to be able to call any of them up to meet me at some dance venue as friends. We were there for moral support and when we met people we wanted to date we would talk about them to each other.
