Why knocking is so important.

[Tonus]

That's not to say someone steeped in self delusion could not use this method to confirm whatever he likes. But, again as I have illustrated some perfectly adjusted member of society could also use this method to find themselves a spouse.

I think that this is an important point. Researchers are finding that our minds use a great deal of self-delusion; the things we are taught, the things we are told, the things we tell ourselves, the things we experience... all of these lead our minds to form our perception of the world, and how we deal with the world. Most people who succeed are highly optimistic and self-confident, far more than was probably warranted. By the same token, most people who fail are pessimistic and lack confidence, and they do much more poorly than their knowledge and skills would predict. We are who/what we think we are.

I think that finding god comes down to how deeply invested you are in finding him, much in the same way that achieving success in any endeavor is greatly influenced by how determined and confident you are. It may explain why it seems common for people who are hurting or in some kind of need to be more likely to 'find' god: he's a great psychological crutch in some situations.