Your thoughts on finding "the one"?

[Bibliofagus]

Your friends have some pretty funny ideas i'd say. Are you sure they are not messsing with you?

Well, the first two that I mentioned are liberal Christians that basically want their future wife to be someone they naturally came across one day, by chance. I can imagine they want on their wedding day to be able to tell this amazing story that led them to fall in love.
I can see where they're coming from, and I wholeheartedly would love such a thing to happen to me. But statistically speaking, that might finally happen to me 20 years down the line.

The third mate that I mentioned is "Catholic", and has had around 10 relationships by now, with most of them having started when he met the girl somewhere/somehow, and then not even joking, have gone on dates 3-4 days in a row after the day they met, with kissing in between and I'm sure sex within the first couple of weeks.
This is actually something that I definitely find artificial and I wouldn't be comfortable establishing a relationship this way. In saying that, it seems like it works for him, and that's good for him I suppose.

So the thing is that it's not okay for you and the first two friends to find true love while 'looking for' (or even thinking about the possibility you might get) some sexual fun. Correct?

I'd try to lose that attitude. I was an atheist all my life, secular parents, never seriously went to church (except a few times when I was dating a christian girl). Yet I never labelled or presented myself as an atheist. I felt no need.
I started identifying as an atheist when I realized that christian concepts and 'morality' were deeply programmed into me. Jebus' sacrifice was the best sacrifice ever. Abraham was commendable for offering to kill his son to make god happy, stuff like that.

When I was dating the christian girl I've met people who actually told me to go to church because it's easy to meet girls there, which even to me seemed dishonest at the time The girls can't feel the same as these guys about going to church now can they? Surely the demure christian girls were being misled by these guys who have been overpowered by their dicks!

The thing I missed was that it turned out the girls could very well go to church to meet potential mates. This was made very clear to me later on by several girls. The only pool of potential mates their parents would approve of... was at the fucking church.
Why did I miss that? I think it was because of my precooked ideas about why girls go to church. An idea that was cooked into me by culture, and not by my own observations.

Hope you get what I mean.