MLA, I came to a brand new city as a 27 year old person. I knew not a single adult in that city aside from my parents, who lived nearby. Finding friends as an adult is one of the most difficult things I've ever had to do. I was so worried about my social life. I thought about it every day, it was a really big issue for me.
So I went to work, I did things around town. I realized that it took time. Some of the pressure to make friends went away. I talked to people at work. I started volunteering in my community with the dog rescue, because that is something important to me. I take the opportunity to socialize with people every chance I get. Every chance. Down to having a conversation with Bernice who makes my sub at Publix every Wednesday, or chatting with Tarik, the owner of my local beer shop. I feel connected.
Lastly, in order to expand my social network, I joined some meetup groups. Nashville Atheists, Nashville Ice Breakers, Nashville Socialites. I go bowling every now and again. I do Karaoke. I take Tanner on a hike with Nashville Outdoors.
Being young and lonely is a terrible place to be. I truly empathize with you. But you have to advocate for yourself. You have to motivate yourself. Make a list of the things you enjoy. There might be a music related meetup group. I'm glad you are giving the Secular group a chance. Tell people there that your goal is to meet people! People respond really well to that. Bottom line is that you gotta get out there. Take risks, be vulnerable. It's worth it.
So I went to work, I did things around town. I realized that it took time. Some of the pressure to make friends went away. I talked to people at work. I started volunteering in my community with the dog rescue, because that is something important to me. I take the opportunity to socialize with people every chance I get. Every chance. Down to having a conversation with Bernice who makes my sub at Publix every Wednesday, or chatting with Tarik, the owner of my local beer shop. I feel connected.
Lastly, in order to expand my social network, I joined some meetup groups. Nashville Atheists, Nashville Ice Breakers, Nashville Socialites. I go bowling every now and again. I do Karaoke. I take Tanner on a hike with Nashville Outdoors.
Being young and lonely is a terrible place to be. I truly empathize with you. But you have to advocate for yourself. You have to motivate yourself. Make a list of the things you enjoy. There might be a music related meetup group. I'm glad you are giving the Secular group a chance. Tell people there that your goal is to meet people! People respond really well to that. Bottom line is that you gotta get out there. Take risks, be vulnerable. It's worth it.
"There remain four irreducible objections to religious faith: that it wholly misrepresents the origins of man and the cosmos, that because of this original error it manages to combine the maximum servility with the maximum of solipsism, that it is both the result and the cause of dangerous sexual repression, and that it is ultimately grounded on wish-thinking." ~Christopher Hitchens, god is not Great
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