so much pain

[Aoi Magi]

I don't know about everyone, but most on this thread are not licensed health professionals, or psychics. We cannot give him the help he needs even if we knew his exact situation, all we can do is give him our thoughts and perspectives on the situation, and hope one of the advice clicks with him.

From my personal experience, not saying anything only helps to increase depression, and the best counter against depression is to try and get their mind off of things. He might feel that we do not understand how he feels, and he will be right, we cannot get inside his head, we each have our own lives, experiences and different take on things. So if somebody sits beside him and comforts him, that might work, and if someone just slaps his back and drags him out, that might work too.

Lastly, in any of these situations, he is the only one who can help himself. It is his decision if he actually wants help or not, and if he will acknowledge that help or not. So instead of trying to help others in giving him advice, try giving him the advice yourself which you believe will be helpful.