Differing degrees of rape?

[Brakeman]

--Why would men be so much more compassionate over a physical sexual intrusion than women?

* I don't even know what this means. If you mean why don't mean get upset about rape, they do, they just don't say it because society tells them if they don't like it or if they feel violated that strips away their manliness.
Rape is a horrible, awful, traumatizing experience. It's wrong always. All victims deal with the pain differently, but it doesn't lesson the severity of the violation. Jesus Christ I don't even know what to say to this without being insanely rude. I hate it when people talk like this though. It's comments like these that make male victims afraid to report to the police. It's comments like these that make them completely internalize their pain and suffering. It's so wrong.

Assuming you haven't had a sex operation before, you are projecting. I am male and I have woken up to a BJ I didn't ask for, nor did I want. But nothing you can say would make me want to hunt the girl down and bother her today. She was simply drunk and skanky. I don't know why she did it, I had never even spoken with her before.

So technically, according to you guys I've been raped, but I never felt like much of a victim so yes, there are variations in severity.. It bothered me a bit that night but I've never given it much thought. You claim to know soo much about how men think.. I am sure getting punched in nuts in high school was a much greater invasion of my personal space. Everyone does NOT feel the same about their body space and the personal dignity that goes with it. Really. Some guys waltz through the locker rooms letting it hang out and they really honestly don't give a fuck. Others are terrified to even change clothes within someone else's view. I was somewhere in the middle but closer to the ones that didn't care. The guys I knew well back then weren't too damned worried about her either. We made sure to lock our dorm doors a bit better but no one came and sat with me to see how I was feeling or anything. I'm sure there are guys who will take it to the ends of the earth to be sensitive to their bodily dignity, Others would be genuinely traumatized perhaps, but knowing what I do of that night, I would think that to be exceedingly rare given the same circumstance.
Honestly, since the room was shared with two other guys, I was more instantly freaked at the thought it was a guy, it gave me only a bit of relief to see that it was a girl. She wasn't an ogre or anything, she was just a problem drunk girl that hung around some guys from the 1st floor.

I'm not saying that my experience was the norm or typical, I don't really know as I hadn't even heard of a guy being "violated" by a girl he didn't know other than myself. I don't know how often it happens. The story got around campus (In various forms) but my only worry was that it didn't get to anyone that knew my parents.

Growing up in my day as a boy did not make keeping high levels of private dignity easy. Guys loved to target other guy's weaknesses, and "body dignity" was a favorite target in the swimming pool locker rooms or other sports rooms and it does carry over. The need for privacy/ dignity actually lessens and is not constant from man to man. The world of men just doesn't neatly cram into the boxes that you label. If you need a man to tell you how women feel, just ask.