RE: She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me
January 2, 2015 at 1:36 pm
(This post was last modified: January 2, 2015 at 1:37 pm by Whateverist.)
(January 2, 2015 at 11:23 am)Losty Wrote: I am shocked at the number of people who were against the vacation. I see nothing wrong with a person who is in a stable committed marriage going off for a week with some friends. No matter how much you love someone I can only imagine after several years you need a break to remember that you are not simply so and so's spouse but you are also your own person. Take a break to be just you for a week with old friends you haven't seen since college. In a trusting marriage, you should be able to do that and come home rejuvenated to a spouse who has also had a nice break and is happy to have you home. I feel like so many marriages fail because people think you're supposed to get married and then forevermore be Mr. And Mrs. Couple that never does anything separate. Also, if you can't trust your spouse for a week without you, you probably shouldn't be married to them in the first place.
Word! One of my favorite aspects of my own marriage is that my wife takes several or more trips a year to give talks, attend openings or go to conferences. I love getting a week to move at my own pace and to notice by its absence what it is I like about having her around.
Beyond that we don't crowd each other even when we're around. We still play cards over every meal we eat together when no one else is here. But I have the freedom to sink hours into the garden or reading and she does the same in her studio. I've got to get regular solitude to feel centered at all.
One thing we both have is a lot of is trust, we both get it. So that just isn't a concern. It is only a matter of comfort. I joke with Lia that if she goes for more than 10 days she should be considerate and arrange for her own temporary replacement to spare me the inconvenience.
