I thought I'd pitch in my opinion for what little it's worth.
I've been married for nearly three years now, and I have been with my wife exclusively (barring a short separation of about two months where neither of us were with other people) for about twelve years now. I am an atheist, and she has alternative beliefs as well so we don't base our marriage or behaviors on the Bible or anything else. Personally, I would not go to a strip club; I have no desire to visit one. If a person's spouse doesn't have any issues with that then it is really a non-issue. However, it's also a non-issue if a person doesn't want to go to a place like that for whatever reason. For me, it isn't about avoiding temptation. I know what I have waiting for me at home, and that's enough to squash any sort of temptation. But, it's unfair to judge someone because his/her wife/husband is completely fine with strip clubs, sex clubs, or whatever. No, I can't understand it personally, but if two consenting adults are cool with it then what the hell does it matter if I understand or not?
Rhythm is right about something: marriages are defined by people differently. As such, the behaviors of one married couple might not work for another. Some married couples are perfectly fine with "swinging" and others have expectations of one another not to engage in anything of the sort. It's all about finding what is optimal for you and your partner. There is no right way to manage a marriage; there is only your and your wife's way.
I've been married for nearly three years now, and I have been with my wife exclusively (barring a short separation of about two months where neither of us were with other people) for about twelve years now. I am an atheist, and she has alternative beliefs as well so we don't base our marriage or behaviors on the Bible or anything else. Personally, I would not go to a strip club; I have no desire to visit one. If a person's spouse doesn't have any issues with that then it is really a non-issue. However, it's also a non-issue if a person doesn't want to go to a place like that for whatever reason. For me, it isn't about avoiding temptation. I know what I have waiting for me at home, and that's enough to squash any sort of temptation. But, it's unfair to judge someone because his/her wife/husband is completely fine with strip clubs, sex clubs, or whatever. No, I can't understand it personally, but if two consenting adults are cool with it then what the hell does it matter if I understand or not?
Rhythm is right about something: marriages are defined by people differently. As such, the behaviors of one married couple might not work for another. Some married couples are perfectly fine with "swinging" and others have expectations of one another not to engage in anything of the sort. It's all about finding what is optimal for you and your partner. There is no right way to manage a marriage; there is only your and your wife's way.
"We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid." ~ Benjamin Franklin
