While I can easily understand a death wish on someone who has never really contributed something positive to my life, I don't think an actual death should be warrented, barring something truely heinous.
It's not a good thing to want anyone to die, but there's nothing wrong in my eyes of putting them out of your life on a permanent basis if they are such a powerfully negative influence on your life.
As a stranger on the internets, my advice can only really be taken seriously to a point, but personally, I would never completely cut ties with anyone in my family. Perhaps its because I never disliked anyone in my family that much but because they are your parents, I think it's important to always offer a place in your life in some manner or another.
That isn't to say that you should always have to take their shit, but that if they truely wanted you in their life, they should treat you with the kind of dignity and respect that mothers and fathers should have toward their child.
Since I don't know the specifics of your situation, if things are bad enough, I would definately get behind simply shutting them out of your life permanently and choosing to raise your own children (now or in the future) in a manner befitting the way parents should care for their child.
My ultimate point though is just to never make that kind of decision lightly.
(July 31, 2010 at 2:07 pm)chasm Wrote: Everyone seems to want to know my reasons. They aren't easy to explain, but there is a lot of bitterness there. My dad was never home and my mom was always drunk when I was growing up, so it's probably resentment from that. It's also the fact that I don't like them as people. They have very bad personalities. I also think it's because they never helped me through my cancer, it was my aunt and uncle who did that. Recently, since I was about 17, my parents have tried to actively become a part of my life and I don't want them to be, because I've finally gotten away, and they won't leave me alone. I just don't like them at all.
A couple of you were saying it's not a good thing, and that's probably because they're my parents. I'm the kind of person that doesn't think blood ties have anything to do with me liking you or not. I don't think they're good people, and I don't want them in my life. I guess I should have worded it a little differently and said "out of my life" rather than "dead". I don't mean it literally. I wish death on no one. I would just rather have it so that it seemed like they died, and I could live in peace.
It's not a good thing to want anyone to die, but there's nothing wrong in my eyes of putting them out of your life on a permanent basis if they are such a powerfully negative influence on your life.
As a stranger on the internets, my advice can only really be taken seriously to a point, but personally, I would never completely cut ties with anyone in my family. Perhaps its because I never disliked anyone in my family that much but because they are your parents, I think it's important to always offer a place in your life in some manner or another.
That isn't to say that you should always have to take their shit, but that if they truely wanted you in their life, they should treat you with the kind of dignity and respect that mothers and fathers should have toward their child.
Since I don't know the specifics of your situation, if things are bad enough, I would definately get behind simply shutting them out of your life permanently and choosing to raise your own children (now or in the future) in a manner befitting the way parents should care for their child.
My ultimate point though is just to never make that kind of decision lightly.
