(August 3, 2010 at 12:05 am)Xyster Wrote: A family member is currently on thier deathbed. I'm finding it is easyer to cope with knowing that it is the end and there is no sky daddy to pray to for recovery.. I'm finding being an Atheist, it takes all the confusion and the questions "why them/me lord" out of the equation. I'm still sad that she has to go, but I also know that is how it is, noone lives forever.
When I was still a believer I remember being confuzed and praying them to be spaired only to be disapointed when death still came. Then all the questions of "why" asked of god only to get no answer. Even my 11 year old is handeling it well and they were verry close. When I became an atheist a few years ago I was wondering how one would deal with death knowing its the end..... As it turns out for me anyhow...easyer
I can agree to that. I think religion is terrible as a coping mechanism for death because it just gives you the mindset that you will ultimately live forever, someone out there wants your family member to die now, and really it allows you to avoid coming to peace with the idea that you're going to die until it wrecks your psyche far more than it should when it happens.
Plus, I like the idea that my 'eternal life' won't be relegated by eternal servatude (aka slavery) to the biggest douche in the universe.
So, good on you and good on your son. It's good to hear that you're getting through (or have gotten through) a tough time with a clear head and a clear concious.
